There may be a period of testing and tantrums, but in the end the child will eat what you give them. This is something a nutritionist told me when I was an intern at a high school co-facilitating educational programs for teen moms.
A lot of parents struggle because their child only eats pasta and some other unhealthy things and refuses the eat vegetables when you offer it to them. There may be a few reasons why this happens. First of all, you may offer the vegetables next to a pizza. Of course most children are going to fill themselves up with pizza and not have room for the salad. Children do not like spicy things. Children also like simple things and they want the food to look nice. So don’t give them some weird looking food. It important to detoxify yourself and your husband before conception. If an unexpected blessing happens that is fine, but if you have time to prepare I recommend at least three months of no alcohol, no drugs, low sugar etc, and lots of organic fresh healthy foods and pure water. Moreover, when the mother is pregnant she needs to eat healthy, because this is when you are also introducing things to the baby. How can you expect the child to eat healthy when you ate cookies and processed food during pregnancy and continue to eat it in front of the baby? You are the babies greatest role model and you are an example for them. If you need to binge on pizza and cookies because you have an eating disorder and addictions to food, don’t do it in front of your child, and when you all sit down for dinner make sure you eat healthy with them. If a child is acting disrespectful, which is usually learned from parents or teachers, or someone in the family, you need to give them a time out. There is a science to time outs:
When a child is acting out like yelling or throwing food, get down to their level, don’t hover over them, that is intimidating for them and will create fear and resistance. Get on their level, look them in the eyes, and say in a firm and serious voice. “Please stop this behavior, use your indoor voice, hands are not for hitting, etc. This is your warning.” Giving them a warning is key. Do not give consequences to a child before the warning. You need to give them an opportunity to make a decision. If the child continues the negative behavior, do not negotiate, do not yell, and for God’s sake never hit. Pick up the child, take them by the hand and walk them over to a time out spot. It can be a step or a special designated area, away from toys and other fun things. You again get down to their level, look them in the eyes, and say in a firm voice, “I am giving you a time out because you did this or that.” And then you walk away. Do not negotiate or argue, just walk away. Set a timer. If a child is 4 give them 4 minutes time out. If a child is 7, give them 7 minutes time out. If a child gets out of their time out before the time is up, reset the timer and put them back without saying anything. Quietly walk them back to the time out spot. Do not talk to them during this time, do not reward with communication. This may take a few tries and this may take a few hours. But it gets easier and a child learns. Once the child achieved their time out, come back, again get down to their level and repeat, “I put you in time out because of so and so. I want an apology.” Then when the child says a genuine sorry you should hug and make up, no grudges. If a child does not want to hug right away, that is okay, give them space, but they need to say ‘I am sorry’ before you let them off the time out spot. With this technique you are teaching them positive discipline, self control, and respect that will help them greatly in their life. I learned this time out technique from a woman named Jo Frost who had a popular show called the SupperNanny. You can find episodes on youtube and you can find her on social media and follow her and her work.
Do not give your children any processed food. It is filled with chemicals that mess up their brain and body. If you want to give them a treat, make it organic and do the 90/10 or 90/5 rule. Where 90% of food is healthy and nutritious. By teaching them the importance of proper nutrition, you will be helping them for the rest of their lives. This was not as big of an issue in past generations because processed food was not as available. Now it is everywhere. Cereals, boxed meals, candy. Also beware, even if the box says organic does not mean it is healthy. Reading labels is key. Some products only require 70% to be organic ingredients and the rest junk. I always say, stay away from packaged food. Parents need to take charge and stop being lazy. If you don’t know how to cook, learn. It is not hard to cook. No one is asking you to roast a stuffed turkey. Making eggs, salad, and some sweet potatoes is super easy. Making a shake with kefir from grass fed cows and organic strawberries with chia seeds is easy. Just put it all in a blender. Making a trail mix with dried fruits and nuts is easy. Also stay away from bananas, they are not healthy. Way too many people are eating these sugar sticks because they think it is fresh. But bananas have been hybridized and messed with for a long time. Even if they say the banana is organic. A real banana is tiny compared to what you see in a store. 1 or 2 fruit per day should be the maximum sugar dose. Too much sugar is over stimulating. Then you stress out when your child is hyper and can’t stop and relax. You think they will listen to you when you give them a sugar treat but instead you are doing the opposite.
Unhealthy diet is linked to hormone inbalance and much more. Plus we all want to be beautiful and feel good. When I go to the grocery store, the only place I go to is the fresh produce, and based on what they have available I create my meals. Sometimes it is zucchini, or brussel sprouts, or cauliflower. I like to steam those but I also love to eat a lot of fresh raw vegetables like arugula, radishes, cucumbers, lettuce, etc. I season vegetables with olive oil and apple cider vinegar, but you can get pretty creative with healthy dressings. Make it yourself. Don’t be lazy. Avoid nitrates, preservatives, and GMOs. A healthy body is a vital instrument for spiritual evolution.
It is important how you fuel your bodies and your children’s bodies. Moreover, you are voting with your dollars, so purchase things that are ethical, pure, humane, organic, and healthy. In the photo below I reused bottles to make camomile tea from fresh flowers. I got them at the farmers market but you can also grow some yourself. I love making tea with peppermint and lavender. Yum!