I watched a bunch of super nanny episodes, and many are really educational. Here are some of the common techniques:

1. Spending quality fun time with your children is key. Parenting is not only about putting food on the table and making sure they don’t get hurt, it is also about spending happy times together every day.

2. Routine is key! Also make house rules and communicate calmly what behaviors are not okay. Children need boundaries and discipline, it makes children feel safe.

3. Be an example, if you don’t want your child to yell, then you don’t yell either. Never hit a child, it is stone age ignorant discipline that causes various levels of emotional trauma depending on how the child interprets the situation. Use respectful communication and time outs to discipline and teach. 

Time- Out Technique 

-If children misbehave, first ask them to correct the behavior kindly OR refocus them on something else.

-If they ignore you and and continue the harmful behavior, give them a warning in a CALM and low voice. Also after giving the warming, ask the child “Do you understand me?”

–If they continue the behavior after the warming, send them to a time out chair or a time out room, time-out-bench, time-out-step, time- out-spot, etc or put older children into the reflection room. (Before proceeding with putting them in a time out always give a child time to make a decision in between the time when you ask to stop and the warning). 

-Always follow through with your warnings. Do not argue or go into long discussions. Be stern but do not yell or act aggressively. Always stay emotionally balanced and respectful. 

-If they are 3 years old, keep them in time out for 3 minutes. If they are 8 years old, keep them in time out for 8 minutes, and so on. 

-When you put them into time-out, kneel to their level and explain to them why they are in time-out. If they come out of their time-out before the time ends, restart the time.

-When you take them out of time out, again tell them why they were sent to time out. And ask for an apology, say, “Look at me and say I’m sorry.” Always explain why you put them there.

– Hugs and kisses after time-out has been properly completed by the child. The situation is resolved for the time being, do not hold on to grudges.

-This may take many attempts but no one said raising children is fast and easy. You made a choice to have a family now invest quality time. 

By spending fun and loving quality time together and using the time-out technique properly, things will get better. There was a mom that had to spend 2 hours putting her child in time out because he was not listening. But investing 2 hours for a few weeks is well worth it in the long run. Eventually the child learns the rules and will respect you and others. Make sure you are respectful and the child will be too.

There is also a great book called Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child. This book has many helpful tips on how to be a kind and respectful parent to the little ones. For example, if a child makes a mistakes parents can unintentionally humiliate them by laughing at them and saying something what seems to be a harmless joke, “oh you little clumsy silly goose.” Depending on a child, one can brush it off and the other one can take it very personal. It is best not to criticize the character of a child and if discipline is needed address the negative action instead. This should be a required reading for all parents.

Gottman shares an important perspective on emotions in his book. A parent needs to help children understand what they are feeling. Time-out is good for behavior correction but not for emotional suppression. If a child is upset, a parent needs to sympathize with a child and label the emotion they are feeling. If a child is crying about a toy breaking, a parent should say something, “I bet you are feeling really sad that your favorite toy is damaged.” And maybe share a similar story when you (the parent) also felt sad in a similar situation.

Parental Responsibility 

I was recently listening to a guy on a podcast talking about his wife and how being a mom is already an intense full time job. Which is definitely true. Families that want to raise healthy high consciousness children need to have a full time mom around. Anyways, he was saying that moms have all kinds of tricks to manage little children, one major one is snacks. And here this is where the problem arises in society, which majority of parents fail to understand. No matter what type of snack you give a child, you are teaching them that every time they are upset, or restless, or impatient just give them food to calm down. It is teaching them dependency on food to manage emotions, instead of letting them feel the emotion and figure out a way to calm from within. What is worse is that children are fed with very addictive substances like sugar. Sugar comes in all forms, not just candy. It is grains, lactose in cheese, fruit, etc. Too much sugar overstimulates the nervous system. That is why later in life majority of people become dependent on other stimulants or depressants like nicotine, alcohol, etc. And in the current generation there is a new insanity where parents give children a black screen to distract them. So now children are radiated with non ionizing radiation and are addicted to the meta. Of course many of them will think it is cool to implant a chip in their brain to have the ability to turn on the coffee machine with their mind. Currently parents are turning human being into cyborgs. So basically for generations parents have been raising addicts in the name of love and distraction from something unpleasant. 

Personality changes and emotional health problems often seen in patients with cervical dysstructure

No one teaches how to be an effective parent. People have children due to some primitive urge. But when the child is born, they don’t know what to do. Instead of taking responsibility for their creation and teaching them emotional management, parents just distract children with addictive things or use aggression to control behavior. Don’t blame the politicians and corporations. To solve the majority of problems people need to look within and evaluate what they have done to contribute to this degradation of society.

The problem with outsourcing childcare

It is best for children to grow up at home with their parents not in daycare or with a nanny. The healthiest children are those who grow up with their patient and loving mothers who stay at home with her children while the father provides financially. If children are in daycare, they learn emotional regulation from other children instead of adults. The child adult ration in daycare is imbalanced and there are simply not enough adults to attend to each child and precisely teach them how to emotionally regulate. Since children do not know proper emotional regulation, learning/copying other children is not going to be the a successful way to learn emotional balance and emotional health. Moreover, it is alarming how many caretakers in daycare facilities abuse children. A smart parent would not trust anyone to raise their child, especially during the delicate years of 0 months -7 years. This a vital time when the brain is developing and registering reality. If someone in that reality is abusive, it disrupts the child’s nervous system and sets them up for a much more difficult adulthood. Unfortunately many adults are like children in adult bodies these days, because they have never learned proper emotional regulation. That is why it is important for parents to re-parent themselves, if they wish to stop the cycle of ignorance and trauma. This transmission called GrowingUP – The Root Of Mental Disorders, Addictions & Broken Relationships from Jivanmukti is beneficial to begin the journey of self healing and dissolving the cycle of ancestral trauma. 

6 Signs Someone has Low Emotional Intelligence. 

Moreover, diet is also very important in a child’s development. Society has accepted that it is normal and even necessary to feed children sugar and artificial food. Link to a perspective and tips on how to encourage children to eat healthy.The majority does not seem to realize or care about the harm such “foods” do to a child’s nervous system. That is why wise parents protect their children from the madness of mainstream society and are aware of what kind of environments the child attends. I’ve seen a mother who decided not to feed her child candy yet when she left her child with his grandmother to babysit, the grandmother (although knowing about the no candy rule) gave the child candy behind the mother’s back. Similar to if a child attends birthday parties with other children who are fed cake with damaging synthetic ingredients. Such diets promote parasitic and fungal overgrowths that lead to many diseases. Parasites are very easy to contract and many get them from unwashed produce and pets. It is nearly impossible to keep pets free of parasites and these animals transmit the parasites to humans. Almost all humans are infected with parasites and may be asymptomatic yet the damage is still quietly being done and aging accelerated. There have even been studies which argue that a combination of synthetic/heavy metals in vaccines plus parasitic infections cause autism. And now more and more children are getting diagnosed with cancer. Parasites thrive in a host that is fed sugar and grains, and the longer this continues the more established the parasites become in the body and the more difficult it becomes to get rid of them. Since sugar overstimulates the nervous system, it also creates a risk for the child to become addicted to drugs/alcohol later in life. Sugar is the first drug, and if one understands substance abuse they know that an addict eventually needs more drugs and drugs that are more potent, to sustain their need for maintaining an overstimulated nervous system, that they have been used to since early childhood. 

Raising children in the modern day is difficult for those who want to do it right, but it is possible. Jivanmukti shines a wise perspective on how the majority of mothers express their love in a video called SPIRITUAL ROLE Of A MOTHER & HEALTHY PARENTING