Many times women feel worried about getting pregnant when they are not ready. Some women, unfortunately, take risky synthetic hormones to get rid of that part of worry. However, according to research and case studies, birth control is not the solution because it causes many more problems like depression, weight gain, infertility, and possibly cancer. So how can we improve male/female communication, interactions, and health so that everyone feels safe, empowered, respected, and healthy?
Here are some of my suggestions to these questions.
Talk to your girlfriends or your mom or another trusted AND informed role model, or see a social worker/therapist. Meditate and release energy doing sports or fun hobbies. Or do all of those. Wait for the right time and the right person to have sex. Be smart. It is best to wait and take your time. Do not do anything your intuition is telling you not to do, you are not obligated to do anything. Please yourself before you please others. Live in the present moment as much as possible. Become aware and take care of your mind and body.
Check out a great article by a girl named Carly:
“So, you’ve been on birth control for some time. Either you’ve gained weight, you’ve lost your sex drive, you’ve taken on some digestive difficulties, or you just have a feeling that somethings off. Here’s the deal: I was in your place.
To give you a glimpse of my past, I was put on birth control in grade 8 (think::this was way before I had ever even had sex for the first time!) I had real awful period cramps at a young age, and that’s the only thing the doctors recommended. So, my journey begins. I start birth control, and it seems like things regulate. Oh, cramps get less. My period comes once a month. This is magic, right?
Anything but that. You see, the pill covers up any underlying hormonal issue, and then adds to the problem after that.
Because I had awful cramps and an irregular period, THAT was the sign that I needed to really regulate- not cover up the issue!
So, I want to share with you what the pill can do to your sacred vessel of a body, and then I’ll end the post with the rest of my story- what it’s been like since getting off.
Here are the top real detrimental side-efects of taking the pill, ladies:
1. It’s Covering Up your Already-Hormone Issue
It’s been estimated that more women go on the pill for reasons other than actual birth control: headaches, PMS, acne, cramps. Basically, oh- you have an endocrine issue? Take the pill! Here’s the thing: the pill doesn’t solve anything. It puts a mask on what’s already there. And the longer you cover up what’s already there, the longer it will take to fully heal
2. It’s causing Candida
Candida is something that we all have. But, in a modern society where common lifestyle choices for women include birth control pills, antibiotics, a highly refined bread and sugar diet, coupled with high stress levels, candida overgrowth can have wide-ranging effects. Because the pill has to be processed by the liver every single day, it can work to throw things off in there, causing an overgrowth of candida. This is where the digestive issues, cramping, and bloating begin. Symptoms ranging from migraines to infertility, endometriosis, psoriasis, PMS, depression, fibromyalgia, digestive disorders and many other seemingly unrelated health problems have been attributed to yeast overgrowth.
3. It causes estrogen dominance.
A woman’s natural cycle is composed of rising and falling levels of estrogen and progesterone. Birth control pills work by keeping estrogen at a sufficiently high level that they fool the body into thinking it is pregnant, therefore another pregnancy cannot occur. The problem? Estrogen dominance has been known to also increase acne, mood changes, migraine, liver and gallbladder issues, and weight gain. It may seem difficult to believe, especially if you’re a young healthy woman, but high estrogen levels are closely linked to diabetes, cancer, and heart disease. Using the supplement estroblock has had many amazing benefits for some people, although I personally don’t use it.
4. It’s robbing you of your vitamins
Birth control robs you of many of your B Vitamins, C vitamins, as well as magnesium and zinc. Here’s the thing- we need these. For everything. If you are still on the pill, I recommend you supplement with some good quality supplements, and if you’re coming off of it- you probably need to focus on these as well. Sea vegetables, camu-camu, and a mineral supplement like shilajit are my recommendations here, although further supplementation may be necessary here too.
5. It’s attracting you to the wrong person
This is a huge one! Listen, our hormones dictate the people we are attracted to. So, when our hormones are all messed up and synthetic, we are going to be attracted to someone who doesn’t really serve our highest good. I am a classic example of this, and can attest that today, I would absolutely never be with the type of guy I was attracted to back in the day.
6. It’s ruining your sex drive
Did you know that it’s normal/optimal to feel positively awakened, ready-for, excited, and aroused? It’s a natural human state. But so many women are just, “not horny.” Right? Like it’s normal. Nope, nope, nope! It’s time for you to wake up in the mood .
7. It’s changing your mood (hint: not for the better)
Birth control has been known to mess with our “ups and downs.” I know you’ve been the girl or heard a story of someone switching to a different birth control pill and feeling completely depressed, or anxious, irritable, or just flat out “PMS-ey.” Am I right? These pills are going in and disrupting the natural endocrine system of our bodies (which could already be depleted and destroyed due to living situations and patterns). Our endocrine system is the system that governs our hormones, yep, and our hormones- guess what- they govern our mood, our weight, our aliveness. Feel tired, down in the dumps, and negative? Take a look at this.
Sexuality is not healthy in most people: due to aberrant sexual behaviors, improper attitudes about sex and love, media lies about the nature of sex and marriage,pelvic diseases, rape, and not being able to express ourselves freely and encouragingly. Put birth control on top of that, and it’s just not pretty. We need to be open to our individual sexual needs, and using birth control is not the answer to get us to our real self and her real desires.”