WOMEN BIASES & WORKPLACE
At The University of Chicago Networking event at the W Hotel near UCLA: The guest speaker was Kristin Maschka presented about women in the business world and the theories of Facebook’s CEO Sheryl Sandberg. Kristin discussed which concepts she believed Sheryl got wrong and which she got right. I will not list all of them, but I will discuss some of the key concepts that resonated with me. (Check out Kristin’s Blog Here).
There is a double standard for women in the workplace. Many subconscious stereotypes hold women back in the workplace but also in society overall. For example, it has been well-documented that “success” and “likability” are positively correlated for men and negatively correlated for women. So what does this mean? This means that people are treated in a discriminatory manner simply based on gender.
According to Kristin, there are two key components that men and women are evaluated on: (1) Warmth (2) competence.
The default stereotype for women: On average they are viewed warm and incompetent in the workplace, a negative correlation.
So based on these stereotypes what are the consequences of being a woman in the workplace? With identical resumes, a woman will earn less than a man. Furthermore, if a woman talks about her success in a confident way, she will be LESS likely to get hired. People want a warm leader, so if a woman talks about success she will be categorized as cold as a result of the negative correlation stereotype on warmth and competence. Moreover, during salary negotiations, women get penalized for asking for more money.
What is crazier is that employers believe that women who are mothers are LESS capable in the workplace compared to women without children. Shockingly, women’s competence level dropped after kids it drops. So if I woman was rated somewhat competent before pregnancy, after having children her abilities were perceived to become weaker.
So what are the solutions to empowering women in the workplace?
Many times it depends on the manager and work culture, not the profession. Therefore, women should not be afraid to pursue an array of careers like engineering and politics.
Women should also think twice before deciding to leave their workforce due to low salary and high childcare costs. They should consider future earning power.
They should build their own identity as a leader, and should not try to act like a man. They should stand in their power.
First step to address women in the workplace biases? Firm handshake and a big smile. Also having awareness of the biases is good. If you know the biases, go after them. For example, an employer may believe that a woman is less likely to travel due to family attachment. So if you can travel, tell them before they even ask!
TAXES & MEN
Furthermore, US tax policies need to change! Stereotypes are embedded in our public policy! Our current tax policy for married couples is from the 1940s! It is designed to push women out of the workforce by making childcare cost too much on the margin. Joint filing is designed for women to leave jobs so that they go home after men came back after WWII. So the tax policy in 2013 works the same as the one in 1940. Is this logical? Umm nope!
Also, your partner matters a lot! Be careful to select Mr. Right who is ready to be a REAL partner in life. Pick a Real Man and who is going to support you in whatever choice you pick: Being a professional career woman or being a professional mother or both!
In addition, today men report greater work/life conflict because they are expected to work, and they are expected to work a lot. Therefore many men do not have the time to spend with their families. Our current financial system puts a strain on families. You are either expected to work 50-60 hours a week or don’t work at all.
1.People want to work for likable leaders.
2.Workplace culture trumps policy, so be selective in which company you work for.
3.Paid maternity and paternity leave is key. This will allow fathers to get to know their children.
4.Many policies with embedded stereotypes must change.
I have a slight criticism on Kristin’s chart, which says that those who are warm and competent get admiration. I would argue that the Warm and Competent get a good share of envy as well, not just the cold/ competent group. But overall I do not like putting people in categories.
MY FURTHER EXPERIENCES WITH MEN FROM HARVARD BUSSINESS SCHOOL:
After Kristin’s talk we were given an opportunity to break network with all the guests at this U of C event. I met a guy who got his MBA from Booth School of Business. We exchanged information and later he invited me to attend another networking event at the same W Hotel. When we arrived at the event I discovered he got his BA at Harvard and we were in the middle of the Harvard Business School (HBS) event.
I was a pretty excited at the synchronicity of situation. I am at the point in my life where I am extremely confident in what I believe, which is following my intuition, believing in God, Angles, and Divine Order, and The Love vibration. Therefore I am not afraid to speak my truth if someone asks me who I am and what I do. The first man I spoke to asked me what I call myself. I immediately answered him that I call myself a “light worker.” He was a bit confused and shocked at my response. He has probably never heard this before. However, after some resistance and challenging cold shoulder action I saw in his eyes and heard in his was that he was intrigued. He continued to ask me questions. I told him how I want to work with children and transform society by helping children understand the urgency in functioning from the heart and not the ego mind. I also told him about The Law of Attraction and how if you have a high frequency as a result of being a selfless person who loves others and serves others in a loving way, you will ultimately attract people of the same frequency to yourself. In the end of the conversation he said, “I believe it!”
I talked to another younger guy. He was some wealthy investment banker or something along those lines. As I talked to him I was able to read his subconscious mind, which we are all capable of doing. How? You listen and pay attention to the type of words they use, their body language, and their aura if you can see it, and their intonation. Basically he straight up called himself selfish without even realizing it. Body language aside he used specific words to describe his vibration to me.
I ended up talking to some people who were interested in crystals leaving the group to stand outside by a pool, and discovering light reflections of snowflakes on the concrete and inside the pool in the water.